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Thursday, June 03, 2010

Late Night Thought: Honesty and This Blog.

I've been receiving a lot of comments lately on how "honest" my writing is. I take that as a huge compliment, and I feel much better walking away from the computer knowing that people think that about me. Honesty is something I have always treasured; it has most likely stemmed from my parents' exercise of the action. The way I see it, honesty is not only the best policy, but the only one.

We have all met those people that have no idea what honesty means; they seem to have a lie to fit everything. I know I've always had a fear of running into these people. I personally just don't lie; I don't think I'd be that good at it.

Honesty may get you in a sticky situation, but it can always prevent one as well. My dad has always said "the truth hurts," but we've always agreed on at least one thing: it's always the best way to go about things. Wouldn't you rather be hurt by the truth then find out you've been betrayed by a lie? I know I would, at least.

When honesty is mentioned, other words come to mind: humility, sincerity, courage, thoughtfulness and integrity. Are you able to fit in among these words?

Why do I feel like honesty is just so important it needs to be discussed? Maybe because it's late at night and I'm tired.

But on a side note, I want to keep this blog as open and honest as I would be if you knew me as a close friend. I want to continue to hone my writing so that it feels real. If there's a topic you'd like me to tackle, please let me know. I'm a terrible brainstormer, but then again I'm totally open to taking a hit at some ideas. My serious post about being a straightedge? A fellow blogger suggested the idea to me on Twitter. I loved it.

SO, do you think honesty is the best policy? And what am I missing on this blog? Any ideas for me? This is all new to me and a work in progress so I'd love to hear your honest thoughts. ;)

P.S. If you've made it this far into this ramble of a post - I commend you!
:)

30 comments:

Sunny Insomniac said...

Jessi,

Three cheers for late-night posts!

Then again, perhaps I am biased.

Honesty is a funny thing, isn't it? It can be risky, but only with ones you love. It can be freeing, but mostly for the critic.
It can also be freaking hilarious.

For example, the other day I was in a I'm-going-to-wear-whatever-I-feel-like-even-if-it's-an-80's-outfit, and I did something that is never a good idea when I forget to take my normal pill. I asked my math teacher, straight-laced husband if the heels I was wearing were "too sexy." To which my husband, who is one of the most honest men I know (thankyouthankyouthankyouGod), responded with, "uh...sexy doesn't come to mind."

After I got over myself, I laughed about it for the rest of the day, and have numerous times since.
Like right now.

So keep being honest. It's worth the risk, priceless for the freedom, and with the right attitude, nearly always funny.

Keep writing!

~Sunny Insomniac

P.S. Thanks for the kind comment. I definitely think we could be Blog Besties! Your blog is one of my favorites and I always enjoy reading your writing. :)

Jessi Haish said...

Haha thanks, Sunny! :)

Sunny Insomniac said...

Yeah...that was me that had to delete the repeat post.

Impatience with Slow Internet by Pressing Button a Hundred Times = Said Internet Gets Payback by Double Posting

~Sunny Insomniac

Sunny Insomniac said...

Whoa, you're awake too!

You insomniac.

Some people.

Go to bed like a normal person.

Jeez.

~Sunny Insomniac

Lydia said...

Look at all those followers! 773 and climbing. You're a star blogger. Honestly. :)

MK said...

Hey Jessi! I've just recently started reading your blog, and I LOVE it. Yes you're right, honesty is the best way to go about things. And it is the candidness in your writing that makes it so fresh and original. Keep up the good work! :D

Bobby Bimbo said...

Honestly, I'm barely awake and reading your blog. Where is my sleep? Good work, though. You didn't put me to sleep. Honestly.

And you can follow us on Twitter @BobbyBimbo

Ashton King said...

I've found in my vast experience of 23 years (ha) that honesty really is the way to go. I don't know about you, but I can't just tell one lie. Pretty soon I'm telling a lie to cover up the original lie and then it's a snowball. I'd rather not say anything at all than create a snowball that's bound to catch me and run me over down the road!

Chrissy said...

Your Dad is right... I've always told my kids, that the truth always comes out... Why lie? it just prolongs everything... I've told my kids that if they tell the truth not only will their conscience be free, they will also earn respect from whoever they tell. And w/me they won't get in trouble... they will get in trouble only if they lie...
Hey do u have a silly, crazy side? let's see it! lol double dog dare ya.

The Words Crafter said...

As a child, Mom always wanted us to be honest...if we broke something or did something we weren't supposed to do, we learned quickly that if we told the truth, punishment would be much less severe, if any at all. Often, she would let it go just because we told the truth. I try to teach the same concept to my class of 3 year olds...some of them actually get it...it's an admirable trait, don't compromise...I bet you make your parents proud!

Insomniac said...

No i totally agree with you honesty is something that I love to see in other people, because if they are honest, then I am able to trust, and just respect them so much more. Being a person who has trust issues... honesty is something that I lean on. If someone is not honest it bothers me so much, that I may burn my bridges with them. One of my best friends is so much like you, completely straight edge, she has never done anything that goes against her morals. ou were right in saying honesty is the only policy.

(excellent late night post, I completely understand that one, :P)

Melissa Blake said...

It's honesty or the highway for me too!! :)

Tropic Heat Studios said...

that's exactly what I loved most combined with the style of your writing (very natural like sitting in a room talking with a trusted friend). Speaking of friends -- my biz partner is working with Pam Tillis on a project & and I asked him to get a "howdie" of some sort (picture/email, etc...) from her for you. It was SO GREAT OF YOU to illustrate the contribution Country Music is to music lovers! ~~ from Music City & creator of a few Platinum COUNTRY MUSIC album projects -- your FAN!!, Gigi.

Jess said...

The honesty in your writing is admirable. Sometimes I find myself censoring my writing or sugar coating things because I'm afraid of what some people, especially people that I know in real life, will think or how they will react. I find that hinders my creativity sometimes. I wish I could be more open and honest about all of my ideas and blog topics because I think it will make my writing better...but alas it is something I constantly struggle with.

Good blog. Your blogs always rock ;-)

ChickLitGirl said...

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Katlyn said...

Nice blog! I enjoy reading it. Keep it up :)

Levonne said...

Honesty is not black and white. Generally honestly is the best policy but there are times when a lie is a good thing. Like when I ask my husband how I look. And he immediately says "Great." Well that's what I wanted to hear. It doesn't have much consequence to hear that I could work on those bags under my eyes and shave off a few pounds. I already know that. Sometimes I just need a little confidence booster and he has learned this.

Levonne said...

Oh but when it comes to writing, honestly is the best! Kudos for you and your values and your writing!

Anonymous said...

I too believe that honesty is the best policy even though it is not always easy. And then there is the sometimes it is better to say nothing policy...

Did you show your parents the "I bet your parents are proud of you" post???

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alex said...

sometimes i catch myself starting to lie to make myself sound better when i'm telling a story, but what's the point really? the truth usually makes for a better story anyway..

when i was little, my eyes used to get really big and i'd start crying before my mom even said anything cuz i knew i was gonna get in trouble.. haha kids... ;)

i started reading your blog when you made it to the 'blog of note' but haven't commented up until now.. i adore your style.. your writing style, i mean.. is that weird? haha anyway just keep doin what you're doin cuz it's workin :)

Deidra said...

I'm another one of those gazillion people that admire the honesty in your writing. I've been trying to put more voice in my blog, and I look to blogs like yours as an example. No pressure! ;)

Late night posts are often the best. Lack of sleep sometimes causes you to be more candid than usual (at least, that's the case for me...you're pretty open already!). And your writing follows your way of thinking more closely because of it.

Valerie 007 said...

Oh but you do lie, remember the post the day my awkwardness level went through the roof.

Anonymous said...

awesome post..

Seyma said...

hey Jessi,

it's so nice to meet you.. and congrats on becoming a blog of note!! i'm really glad that i've made my way here. you have such a lovely blog and you are such a sweet young lady.. i enjoyed reading this post of yours about honesty. that's what i believe in most as well!! and i always defend honesty no matter what!! keep going girl.. it's awesome for you to have such a virtue at your age (p.s. i don't know your age. i'm just guessing)..

so i'll be one of your stalkers from now on.. i'm pretty sure there's so much to explore here..

love.xoxo

claire=) said...

honesty is a virtue that's really worthy of being observed. it really feels good if you're not hiding anything from people. it frees your conscience. and an honest person will not worry about spinning a complicated web of fibs.

i commend you once again for your excellent, honest blog entry.:)

Erica said...

Honesty is always best. I am a bad liar and it has to be because I hate lying! People say my face is expressive and gives away my true feelings. In this world, we sometimes feel we have to be dishonest to fit in. But in my opinion, that's backwards! Honesty takes real courage.

Brown girl said...

Love your blog, which I found through blogs of note - I am starting out, and think you have a super style. bravo. :) brown girl x

Molly said...

Hey girl! I just started reading your blog when it was a blog of note, and now I am ADDICTED!!!!! You are such a good writer, and such an inspiration and role model! :) I don't know if you've heard of PostSecret, but I think it would be really awesome if you either blogged about a secret you have now, or one you had when you were younger. Keep up the blogging! Love it now, and will continue to love it! :D

Beauty and Health Editor said...

Hi,

I came across your blog on blogger. After reading this post, I have to say I agree with you about honesty.

If I try to lie about something, people can usually tell since I have such expressive eyes, so I'm told by friends and family.

Besides, I have gotten into trouble so many times for telling the truth, but the truth is best. The people I choose to keep as close friends are also pretty honest too. Once I had some foundation on and I had been eating really badly so my compleion was dull, I met up with one of my friends and she said to me "your foundation looks grey, it doesn't suit you". These are the kind of people I like, they won't lie to you just to make you feel good about yourself, while caring about you at the same time.

So, anyway, I'm the same.

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