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Friday, June 04, 2010

Weekend Thought: Life Experiences?

I always write about the small anecdotes of my life; I take one small, sometimes sad, situation, blow it up and attempt to analyze it to the best of my young years. I wonder sometimes what my blog would be like if I hadn't experienced some of these situations: probably dry, uninteresting and I'd have even less to blog about than I already do.

Erin suggested blogging about the value of life experiences...and I have to say, I don't know where I'd be today without some of the lessons I've learned from different experiences: some terrible, wonderful, painful, joyful or some I always considered unimportant. But without experiencing some rejections, failures, successes and triumphs, I know for a fact I wouldn't be this constantly changing person (that I'm starting to really like.) Think about all the experiences you've had in your life: how you lost your first tooth, when your sibling was born, when your parents divorced, when you realized your passion in life, or when you got your driver's license. Do you remember these things? How did they affect you?

Even if they are not the fondest of memories, you always carry them with you. So how much value do you put on these experiences? What have been some of your most valuable experiences as of now? And what lessons have you learned?

Have a beautiful weekend, everyone!

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22 comments:

Chrissy said...

9 years ago I became a widow... yep, never would of thought.. after all it happens to others right? hah!. surreal girl.. chp came to the door u woulda thought it was a Lifetime story...I tell u after that loss came a few others and I think it was a learning lesson for me... up until 2001 my life could be considered boring? or uneventful is the word.
i learned alot about me... I grew up, learned to do things that were considered 'man' things- repairs, decision making was all me now... finances, I even bought a house all by myself, as well as a car...i learned how death affected the strength in my kids... also the horrible vulnerbility I saw in them.. It split the extended family on both sides...
Had what I thought was a great second relationship to find that it ended by me this January... and I never had a failed relationship... Married at 22 and it lasted till I was 47.. and our marriage was making full circle again because the youngest was almost grown...
Learned more about forgiveness as well as not sweating the small stuff. Would love to have another relationship- don't need the marriage thing...The feeling of being in love is the ultimate for me and I want it back with someone who is on the same page as I am.

Kim said...

2005 was a life-changing year for me. So much happened in those 12 months. I left my a horrible relationship and moved back to my home state. Right before I was supposed to move my dad was admitted to the hospital. His cancer had come back. On April 28th the world lost a great man. He raised my brother and I, fighting for custody of his 3 year old daughter and his infant son with his parents' help and eventually his now-widow's.

My grandparents' health began to decline. I was really close with my grandmother, she did help raise me. My grandpa had Parkinson's and Alzheimer's and ended up in permanent long-term care. In October my grandma had a heart attack and died.

There is a happy ending though. Little did I know as I was standing at his funeral a new life was rapidly forming in my own body. On December 27th my son was born, it was the emotionally intense experience of my life.

So yeah, I learned a lot about life and death that year and all of it truly helped me form the person I am now.

Jess said...

just to stay true to myself and my beliefs. That's the biggest lesson and word of advice I've ever gotten and it has rang true in many areas of my life...romantically, emotionally, professionally, and personally. Good blog.

Erica said...

Often the most life changing experiences don't happen to us, but to other people and in turn, it affects us. Last year my nephew died. He was 12 years old and he was struck by lightning during a baseball game. It was the hardest experience I ever had to go through as far as grief. It's even hard to write about it, but it taught me three things: Life is precious, life is unpredictable and God can get you through anything.

Luke Cloherty said...

I think that everything that happens in every single second of your life is of huge importance. For instance, had you decided not to go out that night, you may not have met your future girl/boy friend or wife/husband. Had you not taken the first left instead of the second you could have ended up being stabbed or something and vice-versa, you know.

Things one decides to do, which seem so inconsequential at the time, are actually shaping your future in some mysterious fashion. There's a lot to be said for reasonable logic. I guess that's what makes living so cool though, hey.

Abstruse Ashley said...

I'd have to say one of my most valuable lessons is that you can not hold a grudge forever. Eventually no matter how a person has hurt you or done you wrong you need to move on if you want a future with them. No relationship or even friendship can move past a grudge.

Levonne said...

You have a beautiful weekend too. And life would not be life without life experiences, both good and bad. And often, great writing is about those bad experiences. Love your blog!

B. Lumberg said...

Are you tired of being a loser? Get your self respect back

www.waystobecool.blogspot.com

Sunny Insomniac said...

Jessi,

Thank you so much for the creative, inspiring post. I think that's my new favorite word to describe your blog: "inspiring." What I mean by that is, you instigate reactions in people with your writing. (Which is a lot harder to do than it seems.) And most of the time, these reactions are very deep in nature.

One of my dearest friends is getting married in less than twelve hours. She's sleeping on an air mattress right beside me, oblivious and peaceful in this moment that has no meaning for her. This is because she will travel instantaneously over this time that I sit awake and typing this, to open her eyes and find that it is the day of her wedding.

I love this moment - the moment of Waiting on the threshold, of poised in anticipation. It burns that memory into our psyche, changing who we are.

Keep writing. Love it as always.

~Sunny Insomniac

sunshine said...

moments make us, people make us ...sometimes i think we are not ourselves but everyone else and everything we do instead. for me, anorexia changed my life. there's no way back. but it teaches you more about life and humanity and the way even good people have the potential for deiceit more than anything else i've experienced. have a beautiful weekend yourself, i will be studying latin ;)

claire=) said...

there's one moment when my life literally turned upside down-when my dad lost his job and my cousin had a baby out of wedlock. my whole family was affected. we were shattered: but not to the extent of someone moving out of the house. we were emotionally shattered. i hate it. i don't want this to happen. it made me realize that i have to take care of my family more than anything and anyone else in this world. i actually promised myself that should i graduate next year with a college degree at hand, it would be for them. i know it'll change everything, too. i'll be very vigilant in finding a job, i don't care if it's not in line with my degree. just a job. any job.

i learned to cherish my family above anything else, and to cherish my education as well, which could be the ticket for our family to be united again. :)

i sooo love your blog again. keep it up! :)

Dear AL said...

Had my ups and downs, but my wife has helped me through it all with her sense of humor. :-)

You have a nice weekend to, Jessi!

Jonathan said...

Cool blog.

~JON
lifeofakidnamedjon.blogspot.com

Livvy U. said...

Hello, I just found your blog via 'Blogs of Note', and wanted to say how impressive I find it! If only I had been as in touch with myself, and with the various meanings of life, at your age!! I salute you - happy June, Livvy

Kayleigh said...

your blog rocks my world! (personally, it was the kiss t-shirt and the love of aerosmith, amongst other things...i have a father who would be the fifth member of kiss if he had a choice)

et said...

Reading your blog now reminds me of how much i've drifted away from scribbling down my own daily life in my blog - the initial goal that is! I should really stop generalizing things and start writing about meee now! :)

UjSen said...

I think as long as one stays true to one's own self, life eventually gives you what you want.

Erin said...

I'm glad you blogged about my suggestion. I love to think about all the experiences even in the past few years, but also throughout life that have made me into the person I am now. What if I decided to continue playing softball instead of starting to row? My life would be completely different! What if I never met my best friend? How would that change me?

It's like the butterfly effect, one thing changes another things which changes another thing. Life is such a crazy web of connections that have brought us to be where we are now. I love it!

TheTweedz said...

I just have to say that your writing abilities are amazing. Your blogs are always so interesting to read and quite frankly make me laugh..in a good way. I can relate to alot of your stories and thoughts..kudos

Pen

Brian Miller said...

everything that we experience happens for a reason, it molds and shapes who we become. while some are not pleasant, without them where or who would we be. nice post.

LeadPill said...

You seem to be very upbeat. Nice to see.

V said...

my most valuable lesson is that from bad will come good and that it will pass. And that you MUSTN'T bottle your feelings.
5 years ago, well a bit more, my parents separated, and it hit me hard. I was depressed terribly, always crying, cutting myself, and I was angry and a whole bunch of goodies.
Cutting myself taught me that i shouldn't bottle my emotions, and its from that experience, I've learnt that it's my purpose in life - to help other youth going through the same thing. Divorce oddly enough is basically my passion LOL but it passed, and I lost one parent but my mom is still the best and we still tight like that ;)

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