When we were younger, our role models may have included the firemen and policemen, our parents, and our favorite celebrity. As we aged, they may have included rock stars, teachers, or our grandparents. Today, our role models may be people that have always done 'right' in our eyes. People that do things that we want to do and strive for things that we admire and would like to achieve. But what if our role models aren't.....role models?
When I was younger, I used to admire and idolize my role models. But as I'm getting older and experiencing more things, I've found I'm learning a lot more from the people I don't want to be. I guess you could say they are my non-role models, but I look to them more often than my positive role models.
I have one particular person I look to. This person is someone I never want to grow to be like. In my mind, this person is just at a point where they're struggling and quite honestly in my eyes aren't doing anything right. I look to them to see everything I don't want to be and can work to do things differently from that person. Is that twisted or what?
I guess sometimes it's just easier to find bad influences as opposed to good ones. But if we can watch these bad influences from a distance, determine it as 'bad' and learn lessons from what we call their mistakes, that's okay right?
Who are your role models? Don't get me wrong, I have plenty of great influences in my life. But I know that I can learn just as much, if not more, from the people I don't admire, as soon as I discover why I don't admire them. Have you learned to see the worst in some and learn from what they do? I know these non-role models will continue to teach me for the rest of my life.