Everything was fine and dandy, I thought everything was right where it should be. Then the unimaginable happened: I got a Facebook friend request from a relative.
Other than my cousins, I'm not really Facebook friends with many other relatives. Why? I already don't have "relationships" with the majority of my relatives and I haven't for years, and I'm not about to be buddy-buddy with them after this long. Because if they don't care enough to talk to the actual me, why the hell should they have the right to stalk me the cyber way? Either they are lazy or nosy, I don't like either trait in people. So sorry, but I wont be hitting "accept" on your request. I may keep it in my requests without answering at all though: just a little bit longer for the giggles anyway.
Family is supposed to be your support system. Family is supposed to love you unconditionally. But sometimes, they simply aren't capable.
When you're young, you carry it like a chip on your shoulder. Well, at least I did. It bothered me that I didn't have holidays like my friends; I was frustrated that I didn't have all those relationships, ties and bonds to fall back on and enjoy. I thought something was wrong with me, I thought something was wrong with my parents...but I was just simply wrong. THEY chose to not be a part of my life. They were the ones who didn't want to put in any effort.
Having a family doesn't have to mean that you have four grandparents and many uncles, aunts and cousins. Family can surprise you in that you're not even blood-related to them at all. Family is those who love you at the end of the day...unconditionally. No matter who you are. Just because you share the same blood or last name as someone does not automatically make them family. Family is so much more.
If only certain people in my life realized that. Family is a lot more effort than Facebook "likes" or pokes. But when family is truly family, it doesn't feel like effort at all. It just happens, and that's when you know you're right where you need to be.
UPDATE: It was satisfying to turn down that friend request. After doing so, I was prompted with "Do you know this person outside of Facebook?" I gave a weary grin as I hit no.
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