If you go in life expecting everything and everyone to live up to your high expectations, you're bound to be disappointed...right? Right. I've always taken pride in the fact that I think I deserve good things because I am a good person. I've always thought that if I've kept and maintained so many morals that the people who want to be in my life need to as well. But how can you expect things from people if every time it turns out that they promise it but can't follow through? It's heartbreaking and it's exhausting.
I don't hold high expectations for the people in my life for fun. I don't do it because I enjoy watching them struggle. I hold them to high expectations because I hold myself to them and because I genuinely care about them. I want people to be the best version of themselves, and I never want them to hold themselves back. So I keep thinking that if I am the best person that I can be, then others will follow suit. But that's not the case.
Instead, they give up. They give up on me, they give up on themselves, they give up on everything. And guess who ends up getting hurt? I do. Because I gave them the benefit of the doubt, I got my hopes up, I cared too much. But the reason that it hurts the most is because I know these people can go beyond my wildest hopes and dreams. I know that they can do everything they want and more. I know that these people can be great, and they choose not to be. That's what hurts the most: realizing you care more about someone than he does about himself. And the worst part? You can do absolutely nothing about it.
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