Wednesday, November 30, 2011

How Gone with the Wind made me realize that I'm a sap.

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"You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how."

I felt butterflies after Clark Gable spoke those words. It's weird; as much as I love romantic comedies and chick flicks, I never would have considered myself a romantic sap. I mean, I don't sit around daydreaming about this kind of stuff. I don't really expect to ever get swept off my feet. But I watched Gone with the Wind for the first time the other day, and I'm still a puddle. I may even be sort of hoping that I find some excitement like this.

I can't even imagine being courted like Scarlett was. If a guy is interested in you now, he'll text you "heyyyy" or "sup" at odd times of the day. Maybe chivalry really is dead.

It doesn't help that I love drama. I loved the way Scarlett would throw herself into a man's arms, be free with her emotions, and wear her heart on her sleeve. I truly admired her character, even though I spent most of the movie trying to figure out if I liked her or not. But either way, she had a wonderful man wrapped around her finger, somehow. 

Is chivalry really dead? Are there still guys out there like Rhett Butler? Or do we just have to face the facts and accept that the lazy, social media-related attempts at flirting are all we get...and sometimes all we give?


Bonnie said...

Can you believe that I have never seen "Gone with the Wind"? For shame.
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Rodney said...

I'm a guy, so take this with the appropriate grain of salt. Personally, I don't think chivalry is dead. It's that it's been 72 years since this movie was made (and even longer since the timeframe the movie takes place in), and a lot has happened in that time: women's rights, women's liberation, WWII, sexual revolution, sexual harassment laws, gender role reassessments, etc, which fundamentally altered how men & women relate to each other and forced chivalry be less overt and "go underground" for lack of a better term.

As a guy, I do find it interesting that a lot of the women I know (and several I read about) pine for that lost era when men were expected to do everything, and women just took care of the home and the kids with no other responsibilities being socially acceptable. The sentiment is so prevalent that there was even a movie based on the concept: Kate & Leopold.

Now, I grant you that men (for justifiable reasons or not) have become less overt in their romantic gestures. That is a given. But I ask this question of you ladies: Would you trade in all the freedoms you have in modern day for chivalry of the type seen in GWTW or K&L?

drollgirl said...

well your blog post title made me laugh!

chivalry. hmm. i don't experience it often. although the man i am currently seeing recently SCOLDED ME because i wasn't letting him open the door for me. so maybe we are part of the problem? or maybe that is just me! :]

I Love You More Than... said...

It's not dead yet, but it certainly is dying. In my naive high school day, I dated a guy who refused to buy me anything (no Christmas or Birthday gift either) because I would get used to the idea of recieving gifts & he wouldn't be able to satisfy my desire for them. Plus, he felt it would make me more independant. I ask you who thinks like that? But my dear boyfriend, yells at me when I walk faster than him & he is unable to open the door. He has never asked me to pay for a meal, although I have volunteered. He doesn't treat me like a princess, but
he's awfully sweet. He proves to me that chivalry isn't dead. Anyone after him has lot to live up to!

Sweet Posy Dreams said...

I'm not sure we really need men like Rhett around these days. But I, too, felt a little thrill the first time I saw that movie as a kid.

As a side note, I notice that I referred to Rhett Butler as a "man" whereas so many males today are usually referred to as "guys." Hmmm. Wonder if that means today's men seem less mature and/or manly. What do you think?

Punctuation Mark said...

I love Clark Gable... i hope no one ever feels like doing a remake of this... it's one of the best movies of all time!

Cafe Fashionista said...

I have never before seen this film; but I have to admit...chivalry, from what I have experienced, is practically extinct. Guys just dont seem interested in sweeping a girl off her feet anymore. :/

Erica said...

wow, hard to post my comment it keeps disappearing, but I said that chivalry is hiding scared behind a plate of chicken wings at Hooters. and most men are dogs which is why we turn to celluloid for sweet guys.

Wendy said...

Fellow sap here and I ponder the same thing. I'd like to think that species of male still exists (I just haven't personally seen it yet... And if I did, I'm not sure I would know what to do with it).

Anonymous said...

I think it has less to do with advancements in women's rights and more to do with how we've just generally become more casual as a culture. You're talking about an era when people had outfits appropriate for every occasion and location, and to wear the wrong one at the improper time would be borderline scandalous. Today, people go shopping in their pajamas (or clothes with stains and holes, or just jeans and a t-shirt) and hardly anyone bats an eye. We also don't have the same convoluted standards that governed every aspect of interaction- just read an etiquette book from this time period. We're a far less formal culture now; is it any surprise that extends to how we conduct our relationships?

Also, would like to point out: courting has always been a mutual endeavor -even in the time periods when women were publicly supposed to be aloof and indifferent to their pursuers, there was a ton of advice about how to discreetly encourage the advances of the men that they were interested in (even including a whole not-so-secret code worked out in flower arrangements).


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