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Myth #3: First impressions are everything.
We've all heard the saying about first impressions being everything. But in a world of cyber-stalking, friend requesting before you actually know the person, online dating, and texting before you hear someone's voice, how can you judge a person based on a first "impression?" And with all of these options for meeting someone, when does the impression actually happen? Is it the first time you Facebook message, or the first time you meet face-to-face? And whenever it happens, does the first impression even mean anything anymore?
I'm a fairly open person; unlike some people, my online presence is a reflection of myself, rather than something I would like to be. I think that if I met my blog followers in real life, they'd feel like they already knew me and would realize that I'm the same person that I write about.
But I don't think first impressions bear as much power as they used to, now that people can have so many identities. My father has a skill that I used to think I had as well. He knows, in the first five minutes of meeting someone, whether or not they'll get along or if he likes them as a person. And somehow, for the most part, he's spot on. I thought I was this way, but I find that as I age, I'm more favorable of second chances, even when it comes to first impressions.
If I met a guy while out with my friends and he fumbled and said something stupid, I wouldn't hold it over him. I wouldn't label him with that action for the rest of eternity. Why? Because I like to know a person inside and out. And I can't figure that out in the first meeting of a person. When I get to know someone, I end up truly loving or hating them. Whatever way I feel about a person, it's passionate. No matter the feeling, I feel it a lot. But I can't figure that out in one sitting, so I'll give you a few tries to see how I feel about it.
To me, first impressions with people won't make or break something. I understand we're just human. I still believe you should always make your first impression count, but never think that it will define you. At least it won't in my eyes.
What do you think? Would a bad first impression change everything for you when it comes to dating and potential relationships, or do you believe that first impressions don't really matter? And how do first impressions affect the outcome of a relationship - like avoiding the friend zone during a first meeting?