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Myth #5: Friends can't share exes.
I'm going to jump right into this and take the unpopular opinion. Friends can't date the same people? I call bogus. I think that if you really want my sloppy seconds, that's your prerogative, and it's none of my concern. Because honestly, if you're not dating someone anymore, you don't have any sort of hold or possession of them. So who are you to voice an opinion on who they can see? Obviously things didn't work out between the two of you, so you both need to move on. To other people.
But it's not right for one of my friends to date someone who I've dated! I can hear you retort. Oh I'm sorry, did I miss the memo that said you have say over other people can date? It's none of your concern. It may suck to see your best friend dating someone you once cared about but let's be honest, it didn't work out for a reason. Leave it at that, and don't look into it anymore. It'll kill ya. I think that some of the best relationships can come from dating someone who was friends with your ex. I mean, if your ex wasn't quite right, this friend who may be pretty similar (give or take a few major characteristics) might be a good step in the right direction. Your aim was just a little off before!
I can see how there could be plenty of reasons not to date an ex's friend or a friend's ex or....any other variation of it. But I truly believe that it is possible, and could even be socially acceptable if done in a mature manner. How can this be handled maturely? Like with anything else that has to do with relationships, it's all about communication. Talking to people honestly about things can prevent a lot of drama and headaches. Also, keeping an open mind and not over-thinking things does wonders too.
What do you think? Has your ex ever dated one of your friends, or have you ever dated an ex's friend? Is it a do or a don't?