Thursday, July 05, 2012

Let's stop pondering the "what-if's" and get back to living

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Sometimes I can’t help but wonder about what could have been. Aren’t we all guilty of daydreaming about the “what if’s?” It’s intoxicating. When you start to drift off wondering what could have happened if something had gone differently, you start to dig yourself a hole. The curiosity can become an obsession. You can wonder so much about how things could have been, that you may not even notice what’s right in front of you.

You take things for granted when you start wondering about everything else. Sure, if I had done Plan A, you tell yourself; my life would have gone down this way. But hey, didn’t Plan B turn out to be even better? And if you aren’t there yet, I can bet it will be. After all, there had to be a reason you didn’t make that choice initially, so why are you beating yourself up right now? Things will always turn out the way they need to be, even if the grand scheme of things doesn’t look picture-perfect right now.

So stop obsessing over what could have been and realize that you have something worthwhile right in front of you. There’s no point in reliving imagined scenarios, so stop wasting your time. Just keep making the choices that feel right IN THE MOMENT, and realize that the grass is NOT always greener on the other side.


Stephanie said...

I have to stop myself from doing this all the time. Being in the present is WAY more important than living in the nonexistent. : )

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I really feel like there was a long thought process that you had that provoked this blog post that you haven't told me about. I feel like pondering the "What If's" isn't always a bad thing, because it can sometimes remind you about how valuable the things right in front of you truly are. Then again, pondering can cause you to shirk away from what is right in front of you, so there needs to be a line drawn that you don't cross while pondering the past.


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